"Of all of the choices we made throughout my pregnancy, having Tiffany be our doula was the very best. We wavered about having a doula because I knew I wanted an epidural and we weren't sure whether we needed the extra support and whether a doula would be supportive of our choices. However a bad experience in L&D at 27 weeks + and knowing my OB would likely be on vacation during my birth left me anxious. We met with Tiffany and I immediately felt better. She was incredibly empathetic and made clear that her priority was supporting our choices. We figured that even if I had an uneventful birth, the peace of mind alone was worth it.
Well, my labor ended up being more eventful than I had anticipated. The doctor I had the bad experience with was on call, we had a nurse who didn't regulary work at our hospital, and my heart rate was quite high. However, I knew everything would be okay when Tiffany arrived. She and my husband were amazing helping me through the first part of my labor, advocated for me to labor in the tub, and helping me decide when to get the epidural.
Later, I ended up needing extra testing and I couldn't always follow what the doctor and nurse were discussing. Tiffany always took the time to explain what was happening and why. After delivery, my heart rate got even higher and there was a flurry of people. Tiffany stayed to make sure I was okay and her calm presence reassured me.
Given the circumstances, my birth could have easily been a bad experience, but thanks in large part to Tiffany, it wasn't. Her emotional support was pivotal. Women always remember how they felt during birth and I felt supported, safe, and cared for thanks to Tiffany.
We can't thank her enough for making the most important day of our lives such a positive experience." -HA
A new testimonial for Tiffany: " Although hiring a doula is not an inexpensive venture, I can think of no better way to spend the money in preparation for the arrival of my little one"
"We are so pleased with our birth experience and Tiffany’s role in helping us achieve our somewhat hazy goal of an unmedicated birth.
Meeting her for the prenatal appointment, we felt instantly at ease with her non-judgmental approach since we were uncertain which path we would purse until labor started. (Although we found her through community referrals, it turns out she is also very well known and respected in our midwives’ office and at the hospital where we delivered, which says a lot.)
Our labor was somewhat unusual for a first time birth in that we did not have early labor so we arrived at the hospital already in the very active stages, andTiffany was there shortly after we arrived and did not leave until well after our son’s birth 12 or 13 hours later. She provided invaluable support during the labor and delivery for both me and my husband, always encouraging of where I was at and suggesting multiple options to keep things moving.
Her training as a midwife was paramount to the process going as smoothly as it did and I can’t say enough how happy we are with the decision to have her there.
Although hiring a doula is not an inexpensive venture, I can think of no better way to spend the money in preparation for the arrival of my little one." -JJ
"What is an estimated due date, and how is it determined? What are the risks of going past your due date? Does induction increase the risk of C-section? At which point do the benefits of being electively induced outweigh the risks? Do women’s goals and preferences for their births matter?" - Rebecca Dekker, PhD, RN, APRN
Check out this Evidence Bases Birth article on "The Evidence on Due Dates":
"This photo was taken one year ago on this day. It was the end of our Ocean Shores getaway where we celebrated the news that I was pregnant. My heart really was so full, and I thought this fortune was perfect given the circumstances. There was so much to look forward to and smile about. I don't think either of us had ever been so giddy before. Our drive home was spent talking about what the gender might be, names we loved, school districts, and all the things we had previously only been able to discuss in our dreams.
Our entire world came crashing down on us that night we came home, when we discovered I was at the beginning of a miscarriage. The end of our blissful, celebratory getaway led us into the darkest week of our whole lives. These next 7 days were filled with more emotional and physical pain than I still have ever felt today. My life was spent solely between the bedroom and bathroom. We were so heartbroken, angry, confused, and ashamed. I was in the deepest black hole of sadness I had ever experienced and I had no foreseeable hope in getting out of it.
Miscarriage is a sore subject. It's not something most women talk about or admit to, and there is definitely a strong stigma attached to it. If I've learned anything, it's that women are stronger because of it, and they should feel empowered by what they have overcome. I hope this touches anyone out there who has gone through such hardship, and that you realize you aren't alone in your feelings and experiences. There are more of us out there than you'd think. Share your strength with the world. It is the people who have been through the most, that have the most to give.
Time can help heal trauma and tragedy, but I believe it's important that we don't forget to acknowledge the hurdles that we have overcome, regardless of the specific situation. We don't have to live in the past or dwell on the pain, but instead, recognize who we are today because of it and respect all that time has done for us, and how it has made us grow.
One year ago on this day I would have never guessed I'd be where I am now, or that I would ever have the courage to speak out about it. Well, here we are, in the final week of what has been the most beautiful and rewarding pregnancy journey, awaiting the day we get to meet our son. I am too happy to be ashamed of the past. Is it irony that our due date falls on this very week? Coincidence? Fate? The universe has found a way of teaching me that strength and perseverance can truly transform your darkest moments into the happiest ones if you allow yourself to grow through them.
As I type this, I can feel our baby kicking and rolling all around in my belly. I think he's trying to tell me he's ready to meet us, and that from now on, this week, every year, will be replaced with the happiest memories. Most importantly, he is our living, beating, squirming proof that the sun will continue shining after the rain.
We cannot wait to meet you, baby Waldron!" - CW
I've known Carly now for 5 years. I've watched her grow her family in fur babies, get engaged, married, experience loss, and carry a pregnancy full term. I am so excited to meet this little one earthside and see this all come full circle.
Carly, I thank you for your friendship, and most importantly your trust throughout all of your story. Love, Your Midwife Tiffany
Guys, I did it! I completed Midwifery School!
You might be asking yourself, "So what does that mean for Puget Sound Doulas? Will you be going straight into midwifery? Will you work with repeat clients? What about the partnership?"
My midwifery practice with Cindi Thompson www.SeattleMidwives.com has continued to grow since 2014. At this point, the practice is not big enough to fully support two midwives, so I will continue to do doula work through Puget Sound Doulas throughout 2017. But guess what? SO many past doula clients are following me to the practice and now using Seattle Midwives as their maternity care provider!
With the hope and positive thoughts put towards growth for the midwifery practice, Jen and I have decided to end our partnership 5/31/17. Jen will be entering into a new partnership with another doula, and I will continue taking clients as a solo doula through Puget Sound Doulas. (I'll let Jen make her big announcement when her new practice is up and running).
This past year has been such an amazing growth opportunity for both of us as individuals, as friends, as parents, and as partners in business. We knew this time was going to come eventually, when we originally decided to partner together, well here we are!
Wish us luck and continued growth!
It was a busy week at Puget Sound Doulas last week with 4 babies born in 3 days. While one was a “normally longish”, the others were what we like to call “efficient”. Birth is a complex process to which we must approach with flexibility. Each of these birthing woman faced challenges- a baby in a posterior position “sunny side up”, a baby with variabilities in her heart rate, a premature urge to push, and unexpected efficient labor progress. The commonality between all these families was bravery…. Trusting the process….staying focused…. allowing themselves to lean into support….believing the encouraging words being spoken to them….
Welcome girl and boys! It was an honor to be witness and a part of your entrance into the world and into the loving arms of your parents.
"She was like a lighthouse. I felt safe with her." - a testimonial for Tiffany and our PSD Partnership
Being that this was my first pregnancy, I knew I wanted a doula to help me and my husband through a home birth. We interviewed Jen and Tiffany and I instantly knew that they were the right people for the job. I felt right at home and heard with both of them and knew they'd be perfect for helping us during birth. I had a very long labor that started at home. Tiffany was there as soon as I needed her to be. Throughout the next 24 hours, she was there with me, encouraging me, making suggestions and telling me what to expect to come next. She was like a lighthouse. When my labor stalled, she encouraged me to to get things moving by making good suggestions to bring about more intense contractions. I felt safe with her.
Ultimately, after 48 hours of labor with very little progress and an inability to keep food down, we transferred to the hospital. I was heartbroken that we couldn't finish the birth at home, but wanted a rest and a break from the pain. Tiffany was so helpful in that transition to the hospital. While my midwife prepared the transfer, Tiffany spoke to me about what to expect. She was very familiar with Northwest Hospital and made it sound like such a safe haven - and it was. Once I was there I had an epidural and told to sleep for several hours. Tiffany went back to our house to get a few hours of much needed rest herself.
Later the next day, it was finally time to push. Tiffany was so encouraging, holding a mirror, taking pictures and coaching me on pushing. Her energy helped me push my little boy out in just two hours. I was thrilled! It was a rocky birth, as my waters had broken early and there was meconium in the waters. They had to take him away and suction his nose and mouth. Tiffany kept talking to me, letting me know what they were doing and how he was doing. It was exactly what I needed to stay calm and wait for him. He turned out perfectly!
I would definitely recommend hiring Tiffany and Jen! -AH
"Although birth is only one day in the life of a woman, it has an imprint on her for the rest of her life." - Justine Caines
It is an honor an privilege to be invited into the sacred space of labor and childbirth. Sometimes, things do not go as planned, but that doesn't mean that the experience is not empowering or beautiful.
In my experience, families walk away from their birth feeling satisfied NOT when things go as planned, but when they felt listened to, cared for, and were given the time and information to make all of their own decisions.
This family was part of the decision making process the whole way, nothing "just happend." This is what maternity care should look like.
Shout out to the amazing homebirth licensed midwives, certified nurse midwives, and Ob that provided informed consent, and allowed time for informed decision making!
Welcome to the world Baby Sloan Wylder! Love, Your Doula Tiffany